It’s Up to Us

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Haven't you noted that the most of our problems are rooted in our thinking, and that the majority of our troubles come from our past and current choices? If that's true, aren't we then in the position and even responsible for improving our lives in case we don't want to wake up in the mornings, feel stress and/or are fed up of the same things every day? Basically, it's up to us.

I know it's not that simple when it comes to concrete life situations. Usually there are no lasting quick-fixes or one size fits all solutions. It may sound scaring that there is only one person who really can help you -- yourself. It's scaring because it puts responsibility to you. Let's explain this more, let's explore the most common sources of problems and troubles.

Our lives tend to be complicated by our own attitudes and the things that we do or don't do. Below you find just a small collection of the most common examples. Are some or all of them valid for you? Well, then you probably know from where to start...

We don't want to acknowledge our own fallibility and incompleteness. Instead, we tend to think that there are only two opinions: My Opinion and Wrong Opinion. This means, that we are not ready to really listen and accept other viewpoints. What do you think will somebody then talk with us about them? I guess not. It would be a waste of time. Nobody can add to the glass that is full already. So, we have just effectively isolated ourselves into our little boxes.

We don't really want to go beyond our comfort zone. Instead, we resist changes and prefer known to the unknown. We give up to our fears. This not only significantly limits our future choices, but the current comfort zone also tends to become narrower. At the end of the day we will find ourselves at the mercy of the others.

We try to make ourselves shine more via keeping the others down and letting them seem less important or perhaps unimportant at all. What's the outcome? We have the others not respecting us. As a next step, we start to hate them and they start to hate us. We end up in having to do everything by ourselves and clearly, we are lacking time for that. Let's just hope, this is not going to make us crazy.

We focus to envying others, and what things and opportunities they have, instead of living and improving our own lives. We remain to be jealous for always and this clearly cannot add to our life quality.

For us, it is more important what the others are thinking about us than who we really are. We try to show that non-functioning solutions are working, and end up in making quick fixes and fighting fires instead of building something longer lasting.

We choose to do what is easy rather than what is right. By that, we go into conflict with ourselves and our own personal values (which may not be clearly articulated, but still exist).

What could be the solution? For the beginning, just try the opposite to the above. Start from challenging and revising your own attitudes. Remember that stimuli are what they are but it is our own freedom to choose how we react to them. And this freedom is determined by self-awareness, imagination, conscience and independent will.

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