Transform Loneliness Into Loveliness

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Anyone who has ever lost someone special or who has suffered from a broken heart has experienced the pain of loneliness. Heart wrenching despair and emptiness are powerfully negative emotions that can rip the joy away from your soul and leave you feeling so alone; like the only person left standing within a vast universe.  Some people recover quickly, while others never recover for their entire lives. 

The goal for my program is to make sure the latter is not the case with my readers. Perhaps you are currently experiencing the pain of loneliness or have suffered from this stinging feeling recently.  Maybe you feel vulnerable and within yourself, like you don’t want to be around anyone or do anything.  The joy is gone and you now have what is called depression. 

You might think of depression as something only suffered by people who have deep rooted problems, but this is not the case.  When the joy is lost from life and is replaced by the fear of being alone, this is a very sinking feeling that is tough to dig out of.  Even for someone who was once full of love and life, the pain of losing a loved one is simply difficult.

First of all, it is essential not to fall into the pit of despair.  It is normal to grieve, cry or express sadness no matter how severe the loss may be.  There is a saying somewhere that it takes 6 months to get over someone for every year you spend with that person.

No matter how long it takes, or how long you have felt the pain of loneliness, you can bring joy back into your life again.  Think about your daily activities, your mood and what you have done to feel good.  Have you adopted any positive hobbies, new friends or new activities, or have you instead sat in the dark just wanting to be left alone?  Hopefully you have not developed any negative things, such as alcohol, pills or drugs to try to fill the void of missing someone.

It’s time to feel good again.  You don’t have to forget about that special someone because they were an important part of your life and the memories you shared together will always be very special.  However, dwelling on them and feeling empty or fearful of never having love in your life again is a point that must be nurtured.

First, you must want to feel good again.  You must have a desire to love and if you have a big heart, perhaps you do have a lot of love to give.  Turn your loneliness into loveliness by learning how to love yourself deeper and share this love with everyone you dare to allow into your little world.   Sitting in the dark is not a step in that direction.  Start by making little steps towards feeling good about YOU, rather than with an intent of meeting someone.  Bringing someone new into the picture too soon after a love lost is a bad idea and can end up hurtful to both parties.

Make plans with friends – or better yet – find new friends!  Expand your circles of friendships. Church groups, meetups.com and online events are a great place to meet new friends who like to share the same activities that you do.  These are positive places to meet people, not with any intention of finding new love but with the chance to be productive and have fun, rather than lamenting and feeling sorrow.

Another idea is to start a weekly event with the girls or guys.  Encourage them to bring someone else to these events.  For example, you could have “chick night” every Wednesday and invite four or five of your gal pals.  When they bring someone – another friend – you will then meet more friends each week and you could plan a dinner at a different person’s house every week so that one person is not stuck with the weekly cleanup or hosting.  This is a great way to expand your circle.  For the guys, try a poker night or NASCAR night; or whatever your hobbies may be.  Soon you’ll know a whole lot more people to hang out with and your social circle will expand tremendously.

Eventually, you may meet someone new to love again, but start by feeling good and bringing new friendships and joy into your heart.  The lonely feeling will start to subside with time and you will feel like a whole new you, one who constantly evolves and grows in friendships.

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