How to Make Someone Like You a Lot in 3 Simple Steps
Is there a ‘magic bullet' answer to creating a long lasting relationship?
Well, yes and no. It's not like you can just snap your fingers and magically
create great relationships, but if you're willing to do the following 3 steps
it will seem like your relationships are magically transforming. It should be
noted that these guidelines apply to both business and personal relationship as
it doesn't matter the type of relationship, because they all involve people.
Step 1: Love Yourself First
We've all heard this before, but it's worth mentioning again. If you don't
love yourself how can you expect to have anything to offer in a relationship?
When it comes down to it, you must first love yourself before you can truly
love others and you must love yourself before you can accept that others truly
love you. Think about it, how are you going to be able to concentrate on other
people if you are focused on everything that is wrong with you. You must love yourself
before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are,
your simple presence can make others happy. This is the first step in creating
a long lasting relationship.
Step 2: Build Trust and Respect
There have been studies done that show that trust is reciprocal. How you
feel about someone else is usually a good indication of how they feel about
you. If trust and respect are so important, why don't most people learn how to
establish relationships of trust and respect with others? Trust and respect are
very personal emotions, and sharing emotions is commonly regarded as only
suitable for intimate relationships. Most people have a fear of intimacy. Yet,
feelings of intimacy are what create the strongest bonds between people and solidify
their relationships. So how do you create this bond in your everyday
relationships? It's a simple "Relationship Inquiry" process, that is easy to
learn, in which the person you are with always suggests the next question to
ask. In order to follow this process you have to...
Step 3: Stand in Their Shoes
As we've mentioned elsewhere on this blog, people only care about two
things: themselves, and what you can do for them. All relationships begin with
communication. When communicating with others it's important to realize that
all communication should be done with the other person in mind. With that
tidbit of information you are now equipped to begin to build a foundation for a
relationship. The best way to truly find out where someone is coming from is to
ask questions. People love to talk about themselves so this is not a difficult
task to undertake. The more questions you ask the more you'll find out about
them and what they are looking for. The more someone feels you care about them
as a person, (and please note this has to be genuine - manipulating someone for
the wrong reasons into this relationship building process will not work) the
more they will open up and give back in the relationship.
Making someone like you a lot is ultimately up to you. It's not a magic
formula, it might even take some good old fashion work on your part to begin
with, but in the end it will be worth it!
"Make the most of yourself, for that is all there is of you." ~Ralph Waldo
Emerson
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