Be Judgmentally Non-Judgmental

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The Introduction:

We are very often reminded in the mass media and by different spiritual masters that we must not judge others if we wished to live happily and have self-realization. So, should we implement this teaching blindly in our lives? Shall it then lead to chaos or peace in our life?

The Examination:

Let us examine the issue thread bare. We always are busy making judgments.  We simply can't escape making judgments.

The housewife goes to the market. She goes around the market looking for the best deal in terms of both the low price and high quality of the vegetables that she intends buying. She then buys from the vendor who offers her the best quality potatoes for the lowest possible price in the market.

So, what has she done? She has effectively made judgments based on the price and quality of the potatoes. It is clear that she did not buy the potatoes blindly from the first vegetable-vendor she came across.

You wish to buy a car. You don't buy immediately the car someone suggests you to buy. You collect information on all makes and brands. Then, you make a comparison of all the cars in terms of price, later-maintenance costs, fuel-mileage per liter, etc. Here, what you are doing is judging different cars on different parameters.

You are a young lady. You wish to get married and settle down with a guy. You don't marry the first gentleman recommended to you by your friend or your parents. You become judgmental. You gather information on as many as number of prospective bridegrooms as possible to find the best match for yourself.

How does the Judging the others help us?

Well, the judging of the others in terms of the duality of the good and bad helps us make the correct choices and take the correct decisions in our life so as to make our life more happy, more meaningful and more fulfilling. Without the correct choices and decisions, the life shall become a total mess. If you cannot differentiate the bad from the good, you always will be falling a prey to the bad things in life.

So, then are the true spiritual masters wrong in asking us to be non-judgmental?

By, now you may have started wondering - does it mean that we must not practice the non-duality of being non-judgmental at all? No, we must not be judgmental, but only after we have made the first correct judgment. The spiritual masters don't wish you to make any blind judgments. This is what the basic message of all the true spiritual masters is. This message has got lost due to the literal meaning we attach to it without understanding its true spirit.

For example, the true spiritual masters would like the housewife to be non-judgmental about potatoes once these have been purchased and brought into the kitchen. The housewife must now consider the potatoes to be the best potatoes in the world and accordingly prepare the potato-vegetable with all the love and affection that she has at her disposal.

Similarly, you become non-judgmental about your car after having bought it. After a while, you start considering it to be the best and you start loving it for no intrinsic reasons so much that most of you may not like it to dispose it off even if someone were to offer you a better option!

Why does it happen? You have become non-judgmental, that's why. Well, if you are still judging your car and finding faults in it, you will not be able to enjoy fully the joy of car-riding because your mind shall remain distracted by your judgments about the car.

Likewise, the true spiritual masters would like you to surrender totally to your life partner in terms of you giving your spouse full unconditional love and considering your spouse to be the best husband in the world. Well, if you are still judgmental about your husband, you'll not be able to have a mentally peaceful and happy married life.

What about the spirituality and judgment?

You may now ask me as to how one can be non-judgmental in the field of spirituality? Well, it is said wisely in the ancient Indian spiritual text Yogavaaseshhtha that " must first of all discuss with the Vedwaanas [scholars/learned persons], to get the Shreshtha [best] Vastu[thing]{, i.e., the Absolute/Parama Tatva/Pramaa Tatva} and then adopt/absorb the Neshcheta [definite] Sedhhaanta[principle]that has been established/arrived-upon/accepted. One must not adopt any principle blindly...."

It means that one must first of all be judgmental about various approaches/paths that claim to reach the Absolute/Brhma [Parama/Paramaa Tatva].

This one has to do by comparing the different spiritual paths/philosophies with each other with the help of discussions with the spiritually-learned persons in the spiritual field. One must not accept any spiritual path blindly. Blindly following any path would mean that the person has become non-judgmental in the first stage itself. Such a blind approach may prove harmful.

There is no guarantee that any spiritual choice that has been made blindly shall surely make your material life comfortable, improve your inter-personal relationships or lead you to the spiritual salvation. The spiritual choice has to be a well-informed one, a process which requires you to be judgmental about various spiritual choices that are present before you.

Once a spiritual choice has been made based on your judgment, the true spiritual masters would like you now to become non-judgmental about this choice that you have made. Now, you must devout yourself whole-heartedly to your chosen choice/path. Any wavering/doubts about it shall only disturb your mind, distract you, disturbing your focus/concentration. This shall only harm your spiritual progress.

The hypothetical example:

Let us assume that a young lady Sussan wished to follow the spiritual path and was looking for a guide. If she were to be non-judgmental in the beginning itself, she might well land in the wrong hands of the wrong/fake spiritual masters. The best option would be to know about different spiritual masters. So, she contacted some of her friends to guide her suitably.

One friend suggested to her a certain famous TV-Star -Yoga-Guru having millions of followers world-wide. Her friend advised her not to make any judgments and surrender to this recommended Yoga-Guru. However, Sussan first of all decided to recollect all that she knew and collected further information on him.

She recalled that this swami ji Baba Chaalak Dev had run away to the Himalayas from his home in childhood leaving behind his parents. She remembered that this Yoga-Guru had in the year 2005-2006 said in a TV interview that this Yoga-Guru would not get his Yoga-Programme/cultural-revolution be sent to the cremation ground by joining politics and as such he would not join the national politics.

But, he later, on becoming famous, started a political party, intending to nominate his candidates from all parliamentary constituencies in a forthcoming parliamentary election.

Also, she learnt that he merrily went on inaugurating stadiums/programmes controlled/facilitated by anti-social elements/corrupt political leaders, he attended marriage ceremony of a child of one politician who had misutilized illegally the state machinery for managing the marriage of his child, he was charging rupees 500/50 from people for attending his Yoga-Camps and claiming to be a selfless saffron-clad true mahatma/saint/Yogareshe.

Sussan made judgments about this Yoga-Guru. She reasoned - Such a person could not be a role-model for her children and such a person could not be a real/genuine mahatma/saint and so isn't worth following!

Another friend suggested - why not follow this man teaching the art of living? She found that this man fell short of the standards, too. This man taught others the art of living. Sussan collected information on this Swami Ji.

She found that once, an arrow from out of nowhere hit one of the disciples of this Swami ji. Swami Ji forgot all about the art of living and angrily blamed the local police for negligence in protecting him. He further claimed the arrow to have been an attempt by terrorists to kill this Swami Ji.

Later, the police found that a tribal had shot an arrow to kill a bird and that this particular arrow only had overshot and hit Swami Ji's disciple. She made a judgment - how can this Swami Ji be a true spiritual guide when he himself could not practice what he himself taught to others?

So, Sussan trekked all the way to the Himalayas. There she met an advanced pious Yogi. She made judgments about him, too. She found that he was self-less, pious, honest and possessing the spotless sterling character. He possessed supernatural powers, was humble, didn't ask for any money. She judged that he was competent enough to be her Guru.

So, she requested him to initiate her on the spiritual path. He initiated her in the Kreya-Yoga, gave her some supernatural powers, blessed her and asked her to go back to the world, to her family, her responsibilities and continue with her journey.

Sussan came back to her home, to her family, to her loving husband. She continued practising the Kreya-Yoga. She had now surrendered totally to his Himalayan Guru. Not for once, did she let any doubt about him crop up in her mind. She remained non-judgmental, fully focused and achieved the spiritual salvation when the correct time came.

The conclusion:

Thus, it is crystal-clear that we must be judgmentally non-judgmental instead of being merely non-judgmental. So, it would be correct to say - "Be judgmentally non-judgmental" rather than say - "Be non-judgmental."

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