Part 2 of NLP’s Guide to Good Relationships

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 Part 2 of NLP's guide to good relationships gives about 15 major tips that might affect relationships in today's society. NLP stands for Neural Linguistic Programming and is a growing field in Psychology.  Part 2 of NLP's guide to good relationships is a good general guide to looking at a relationship. This does not mean that everything in these 15 major tips will apply to your relationship. Part 2 of NLP's guide to good relationships is numbers 6-10 on the major areas a NLP practitioner would look at. This guide is what to look for and is not the definitive guide or view of every single NLP practitioner in the world.

The sixth tip in part 2 of NLP's guide to good relationships is we as humans are meaning seeking creatures even if there is no meaning to the event. If something has to do with us personally and emotions are involved we get it meaning "about me."

This egocentric view is a natural reaction and happens without us even knowing about it. Just because something happens does not mean there is meaning to it. Sometimes we put in place rules of the relationship. This does not always mean your partner may know them because we assume they know.

Even if they do and they break a rule does not mean it is something personal against us. For example if the rule is never walk away from us or it shows that they don't respect us. This doesn't mean if our partner walks away from us that they mean disrespect. Humans are complex creatures and sometimes we forget that others are just as complex as we are.

The seventh tip in part 2 of NLP's guide to good relationships is "Do not take advice from others who do not know what a good relationship is." This means don't take advice from the person or persons who have gone through a lot of relationships or marriages. We want to model someone who has the good relationship or marriage that is loving and stable.

The eighth tip in part 2 of NLP's guide to good relationships is that the mind cannot understand negatives or negations. This would be telling ourselves that we are not going to get mad at our partner or spouse tonight. Our subconscious mind will focus on this and we will become upset at our partner or spouse.

Here is a quick explanation, if someone were to tell you not to think about blue cats and you try not to think about blue cats. You will focus on other things and your brain will keep focusing on not thinking about blue cats because you're not suppose to think about them.

In our subconscious the thought of blue cats will keep popping up. The same goes with the idea of not getting mad at our partner or something similar.

The ninth tip in part 2 of NLP's guide to good relationships is we must take 100% responsibility for the way we feel all the time. We create the feelings we feel. We give external events, things, and people emotional values like he/she makes me happy.

He/she doesn't make us happy we create these feelings of happiness because of an action, event, or something about that person. Overall we have the power to change our emotions to the way we want them to be.

The tenth tip in part 2 of NLP's guide to good relationships is that sameness creates love and differences create passion. All this means is that people who have similar quality's as we do will be more compatible over the long run of the relationship. The idea that opposites attract is more about a passionate relationships, and it is difficult to keep a relationship passionate over a lifetime.

This is only part 2 of NLP's guide to a good relationship. There are Parts 1 and Parts 3 to encompass the full 15 tips. Also this is not a definitive guide on relationships just tips to help relationships.

If you are experience problems in your relationship in some of these areas it would be recommended to go to a religious advisor, relationship counselor, NLP practitioner, family member, or have a trusted friend to talk with on the subject.

(These tips were passed on by NLP practitioners)

While passionate about psychology. With TRCB, he is one of the original Subject Matter Experts (SME), Author of upcoming book Naturally Good Cooking. For more please visit www.MichaelGoshen.com

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