Remarriage: Effects on children

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Remarriage has a huge effect on the children involved. Children may be happy to finally have a family unit or rebel in the fact there is another authority figure introduced into a lifestyle they are used to. It's safe to assume the younger the child, the easier that child may adjust to the idea of a new relationship and a new "parent" in the home, but that may not always be accurate.

One of the first emotions/reactions is one of anger at the parent who is remarrying. How dare they leave Mom/Dad to marry someone else?! How dare they think of themselves above their (ex-)wife/husband and family?! How dare they move on with their own life, regardless of how everyone feels about it?! Anger is a symptom that commonly masks insecurity, pain, helplessness and (most importantly of all) fear.

Betrayal is another feeling that swims around in a child's soul, once again leading to anger and insecurity. Are you seeing the pattern? A child, regardless of how their parents explain the situation and the reasoning, will always feel betrayed that their Mom/Dad remarried and thereby changing the family dynamic permanently, which, in most cases, will breed resentment, contempt, and (in worst case scenarios) hatred for the "new" person in their parent's life.

Many a times i have heard people saying that they are doing remarriage for the sake of kids but thats not the point the point is they are doing remarriage because they want a partner, whatever the case happens Iwill always stay away from remarriage and I would like to tell you that whatever you plan, plan according to your children's future don't say you say all then only you will get a right answer. its everything that depends on you, you and you, if you choose the right way then you will be the happiest person because if children's are happy then parents are also happy now its your choice, taking a decision is difficult but right one can change families life.

The whole purpose of life and maybe the best way to make the best of a remarriage, is acceptance and making room in your heart for a few more. Family relationships and family characteristics, including high parental warmth and support, consistency, limited use of punishment, and agreement between spouses on children's issues, or low marital conflict and positive spousal relations have a positive effect on children.

Feroz Ahmed Bawany goal is to increase my knowledge and to understand the only civilized creations of Almighty Lord are HUMAN. He is a regular contributer to TRCB.com.

 

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