Its Okay to Exclude Members from a Family Reunion?

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Family reunions used to be a lot more commonplace than they are now. Many family reunions were held on a yearly basis, and were quite large, well organized events. Some have fell to the way side for the very reason that some family members did not get along. If the organizer ignored the discontent between certain family members and invited everyone, then there would be the worry of a family scene.

For one family member to refuse to go somewhere simply because another family member is attending is childish, and sets a very bad example for others. The best thing the organizer can do is to invite everyone and let it be known that all family members are welcome. If you are the one planning the event and you know there is tension or ill feelings between certain family members, make it a point to talk with them before the reunion.

Now there are cases that should be considered as extenuating circumstances. If you have a person who is a trouble maker that will cause problems for everyone else, yes they should be excluded. Family reunions should be a time of love and celebration, not a time to break up fights. On the other hand, if that person has made bad life choices or choices that other people in the family don't agree with then no they should not be excluded.

It is important to realize that in the case of blood relation we have who we have as our family by chance, not by choice. You are tided together by a bond that you did not choose nor can you change. You can control how you allow your family to affect you and what affect you have on other members in your family. I love family reunions because it allows us to spend a pleasant day with all of our relatives to discuss accomplishments, great achievements, a son or a daughter who is serving our country, for health of those relatives who are not in attendance, children in colleges and what they plan to do with their lives etc.

We must try and include all family members. The efforts should be biased towards ensuring a smooth reunion with all members. If there is a problem try your best to solve it. Sometimes after having tried your best, the situation will still not be good enough to invite all members. But while trying to solve such situations there will be clarity on why the solution was not found, or how it can be solved in the future.

Feroz Ahmed Bawany goal is to increase my knowledge and to understand the only civilized creations of Almighty Lord are HUMAN. He is a regular contributer to TRCB.com.

 

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