The Big 3 things to Tap on.

  • Print Article |
  • Send to a Friend |
  • |
  • Add to Google |

I wanted to start posting some of my Tips here. Tapping on my codependency issues really changed my life for the better. Everything I did and more I put in my book. But I want to share with you what I call They are: Fear, Obligation and Guilt. (F.O.G.)

Every time someone triggers one of these feelings in you, your codependent brain is wired to give in or go into codependent mode and care take or fall for manipulation or being used. They might not know they are even doing it. They may have learned this is the way to get things they want/need out of people.

But for you, this is no good. It distracts you from yourself and your best interests. It takes you out of yourself and away from self-care. It triggers your codependent symptoms which can have a domino effect until you are feeling "crazy" again and don't know why.

So be on the lookout for Fear, Obligation and Guilt. When you feel it, don't give in, don't run away, don't try and out-will it to be gone - rather, tune right into it and ASK a question. The Absolute BEST way to get answers from your own brain is to ask it a question. (Hint: take all your problems and form them into questions.)
Ask yourself, "WHY am I afraid?", "What am I afraid of/will happen"?
Why do I feel so obligated?
Why do I feel guilty?

The answers are your clues to why you get triggered that you can be more aware of.
It does not matter what the answers are, you are still going to Tap on the main Big 3.

Now my best advice is ALWAYS do a Full-Round of Tapping on the basic emotion first. (Don't forget to rate you're before and after distress number 1-10). And, while tapping, stick to just the main feeling. So you'd tap on "Fear", tap, tap, "Fear", tap, and tap. OK?

Then perform another Full or Short-Cut Rounds on the Fear but this time say out loud anything that comes to mind while tapping. "Fear", tap, tap, "I'm afraid she'll be mad at me". Tap, Tap. "Fear of her being mad at me", tap, tap, "Fear" tap tap, "Scared something bad will happen" Tap Tap. See?

So you Tap on fear and anything that pops up until it doesn't pop up, if nothing pops up, go back to the original topic of fear and keep tapping until you've done about 3 good rounds and then tune back into the fear and the number you gave it and see what number it is now.

Then go back to the fear, revisit what you were afraid of and either you won't feel fear anymore, or you'll feel is so much less that you'll be able to think it through and make better choices, or some other issue may pop right up - THAT is called an "Aspect", so it's important to do another Round now on that aspect of the fear that has popped up that you didn't really realize you had before.

Tap on every aspect that comes up for as long as you feel like tapping, from 15 minutes up to an hour. Then seal in the progress you've made with what is called "The Floor-To-Ceiling-Eye-Roll", which is exactly as it says it is. Keep your head still while your eyes roll from all the way down to the floor all the way up to the ceiling as far as you can go.

The eyes help the brain process and store memories, so this eye roll has set your fear back into its proper place and has set what you have cleared today so it is much harder for it to come back out of habit.

In closing, as I always say, now that you've cleared an issue, Tap in a New Choice - make it an Empowering choice. For example, I may say, "Even though I was scared she'd get mad at me if I said 'no', I now choose to feel safe and sound whenever I make any choices or say "No" to anything I don't want. And I tap a full-round while saying that and anything else that comes to mind while saying it to amplify the empowerment and strengthen my ability to Choose, which is SO important in recovery.

A major cornerstone of recovery is our ability to Choose and Change, (along with our ability to Love with Wisdom and to go within and listen to our Intuition.)

Tools of recovery remain the basics: sharing with others, reading recovery material, prayer, etc. I have just added Tapping to the toolbox.

 

I help people in recovery clear the issues that keep showing up in their relationships so they can move forward to live the life they've always dreamed. To know more visit EFT for Codependency or www.RecoveryTapping.blogspot.com

 

 

Article Rating (5 stars):
  • article full star
  • article full star
  • article full star
  • article full star
  • article full star
Rate this Article:
  • Article Word Count: 804
  • |
  • Total Views: 121
  • |
  • permalink
  • Print Article |
  • Send to a Friend |
  • |
  • Add to Google |
>