Tapping For Codependency Recovery – Cleaning up the Laundry

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Hello Tappers,
I've been working using EFT on Codependency for a couple years now with pretty good results. I thought I'd post my "Cleaning up the Laundry List" for those who might be looking for EFT tips for codependency issues. I actually wrote a book on it called "EFT for Codependency Recovery". Here is the unofficial Codependency Laundry List adapted to EFT by myself, Jeanette P. Bailey, MA. The list below assumes you already know how to Tap.

What I tell people to do first is go through the list and ask yourself, "Am I like that? For every "yes" answer, give that a SUDs score. Start with the Traditional EFT Long version with the set-up statement as "Even though I'm codependent, I love and accept myself." Then read each line below using the EFT Short-cut. (Keep it simple or get creative, just Tap on each statement below.)

Then go back through the list and re-rate the SUDS. Go over any problem areas as Remainders or jot down ideas as they hit you to Tap on at a later time. It's great to use as a before-and-after assessment tool as well. Rate your SUDs again in a month, six months, up to a year later and see where you're at.

It takes time to integrate the clearing of all the blocks in the Energy System with the process of recovery and self-care in one's life. But taking the distress out of these traits, having these traists bother you less, makes it easier to create new behavior patterns which makes recovery easier to disrupt the pattern.

Recovery means many things these days; be smart about it. I am a registered MFT intern and the program coordinator of a mental health clinic. This goes out to all my friends, the first of which is Julie and the one and only of whom is my husband Robert. You can visit my website www.RecoveryTapping.com for more of my writing to aid the healing of anyone who has suffered. To Your Recovery!

TAPPING FOR CODEPENDENCY RECOVERY

1. Even though I became isolated and afraid of other people and authority figures, I now feel comfortable and involved with people and authority figures.

2. Even though I became an approval seeker and lost my own identity in the process, I now have a strong identity and give myself approval.

3. Even though I am frightened by angry people and any personal criticism, I now accept and use personal criticism in a positive way.

4. Even though I either became an alcoholic/addict/codependent, married one, or both, or found other compulsive personalities, such as a workaholic or emotional abuser to fill abandonment needs, I am now free from trying to fulfill my abandonment needs, I now fulfill wellness needs.

5. Even though I live life from the viewpoint of victim and am attracted by that weakness in my love and friendship relationships, as I face my own victim role, I am now attracted by strengths and I understand weaknesses in my love and friendship relationships.

6. Even though I have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility and it is easier for me to be concerned with others rather than myself which enables me not to look too closely at my own faults, I am now responsible for my own recovery and wellness which I do by loving and focusing on myself.

7. Even though I get guilt feelings when I stand up for myself instead of giving in to others, it now feels great to stand up for myself.

8. Even though I become addicted to excitement, I now enjoy activities and serenity.

9. Even though I confuse love with pity and tend to ‘love' people who I can ‘pity' and ‘rescue', I now love people who love and take care of themselves.

10. Even though I have stuffed my feelings from my traumatic childhood and have lost the ability to feel or express my feelings because it hurts so much (denial), I am now free to feel and express my feelings even when painful (and I know how to calm them down and even clear them altogether).

11. Even though I judge myself harshly and have a very low sense of self-esteem, I now approve of myself as good enough and have a renewed healthier sense of self-esteem.

12. Even though I am a dependent personality who is terrified of abandonment and will do anything to hold onto a relationship in order not to experience painful abandonment feelings which I received from living with sick people who were never there emotionally for me, I am now free from abandonment and fear in relationships as I rely more and more on my Higher Power.

13. Even though Codependency is a family disease and I became a codependent and took on the characteristics of the disease, I now examine and release codependent behaviors I learned while living with the family disease of alcoholism/addiction.

14. Even though codependents are reactors rather than actors, I now choose to review my options before I act and choose actions based on my recovery and wellness.
T.L.C. (Tap in Love & Care)
J'net

I help people in recovery clear the issues that keep showing up in their
relationships so they can move forward to live the life they've always dreamed.
To know more visit EFT for Codependency
or www.RecoveryTapping.blogspot.com

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